There are two main reasons people lie. First because of fear. They believe they won’t be accepted if they told the truth. I told the truth and was rejected so I know that this is a real fear. People that lie out of fear can learn to tell the truth, but until they do, you will never be able to connect with them. Truly connect.
The second reason is because they are selfish. These are the pathological liars of this world. The dangerous ones. It’s not easy to to spot these ones, but when you do, run!
Do people really understand what they are doing to other people when they lie? It makes the person that’s being lied to feel bad about themselves. You don’t feel respected or cared about. When you realise the extent of the lies, you feel like a fool. Like you’ve been tricked and deceived. When you are getting to know someone and you give them parts of your heart, only to find out they lied, you know that you gave, and they held back. Once you see the lies, interaction becomes difficult. You feel betrayed and broken.
Depression, anxiety, self harm, thoughts of suicide. There is no way I can explain to anyone what goes through your head when you suffer from depression. The worst is when people that know better, that’s either experienced it for themselves or even written books about it, will now use your mental illness as a weapon against you. This is when you realise you’re dealing with true evil.
I’m saddened by the actions and words of people, especially the ones that claimed to care. That claimed me as their best friend. But then, I’m a survivor, a mother, a daughter, a friend, an amazing person. Your words can’t change the truth. The truth is what it is. The truth shall set you free! And it has. I’m free 🙂